for now, from the university of denver, i'm jim lehrer. thank you, and good night. >>> and there you have it. the hand shake after the first debate. the two candidates out of the starting gate, first shaking hands with jim lehrer and also going to the wives which come up on stage. i have to believe there's a lot of relief in this moment, george. >> no question about it. the families coming up now, as well. big smiles from both candidates. >> and we heard that initially there was going to be a limit to how many people could be on stage, but the obamas said no, no, we don't want a limb. as many of the romney family who want to come up can come up here, so, let's take a look. as family members who we know have been so nervous during this debate, they told us they're going to be nervous during the debates. they're also breathing a big sigh of relief. >> always hardest on the spouses. >> that's right. in fact, i think mrs. obama said she tries to keep just one face during it all and mrs. romney said that it's really nerve-wracking for the famil